This is spot on, as usual, Meghan. And what you say here about connection is why I am such a huge advocate for intentional community. We have been so divided that I think we are all suffering to an extent with the loss of connection and community. If I could strike just one phrase from the English lexicon, it would be “That sounds like a topic to discuss with your therapist.” It seems to be the modern version of not “airing dirty laundry in public” – the pretense among polite society that certain topics are too personal or, in modern parlance, beyond the ability for laypeople to help each other with, requiring professional assistance. The feedback loop of judgements -> self-stigma -> isolation -> poor coping ability -> judgements -> self-stigma -> isolation -> worse coping… ad nauseum. Where I have become stuck is in developing strong connections. It takes a LOT of time and energy and caring to build up and maintain strong relationships. It’s a lot easier to remain in an echo chamber and in the safety of like-mindedness where you don’t have to do much but except for stay in line with the herd. But God help you if you object to the herd mentality and find yourself alone again because you’ve gone against the group-think. Society has become a bit like perpetual high school. We can do better.