We have this basic need for others to keep us in mind, to know about us. It’s basic to survival for others to know us, so we can help each other if needed. In today’s world, there is not so much need for others to save us from things, but that doesn’t cancel out our basic need that is still there. Things like this go from one generation to the next by example, but we have lost a lot of this. What we inherit is an aversion to this, which is why imo there are so many “mental health” problems.