Tuesday, January 26, 2021

Comments by Cynthia

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  • Respectfully, the DSM 5 and the American Academy of Pediatrics, both do not use the term ‘illness’ when referring to ADHD. It is not an illness and for it to be catagorized as such is to misidentiry what is actually happening with the person that has ADHD. ADHD is a neurobehavioral disorder, and as such needs to be stated rightly- that it is a disorder. Is it so difficult to get this correct? The two are no where near the same. There is no ‘cure’ for it, there may be ways to help with dealing with it, and a person may grow out of it; but the person has to figure out how to deal with the different issues that they have, (and they are different for each person) on their own, with suggestions maybe helping, but only figuring out what will work for them. There is no exact science when it comes to ADHD. It is how a person that is ADHD has to learn to deal with their life. I say ‘is’ because the neurobehavioral make-up ‘is’ exactly what they are. It ‘is’ who they are. They can not change that. They have to learn to deal with it and make themselves fit in to society with their brains the way they are. They have to face the consequences of their behaviors, learn to accept when they are in error and realize when to change — even when it is so very difficult. It is a very difficult learning process, but just as growing up is, the ADHD person has a tougher time, but still has to do it. When it is very, very difficult to control our bodies and/or to slow our minds, meds can help, Environment plays a part, how parents and family members deal with the ADHD person definatly has an affect, whether positive or negative, but that does not change whether a person is ADHD or not. Their brain is still the same. It might change other issues they could possibly have that would affect other behavior issues. This could exacerbate their behaviors negatively. Other social situations where they are trying to fit in and people don’t understand, make fun of them, lower their self-esteem, can also cause difficulties. But this does not change the ADHD itself, just increase how it may present, as well as cause other issues with the person, such as anger issues, self-esteem, shame, aggression, or other emotional issue problems. It’s damaging to try and debunk this disorder, when so many people face the reality of it and have to deal with this disorder, and is basically branding them, us, as liars. It’s difficult enough to get to the point of getting a diagnosis and getting help. Yes, there was a time when there was too much meds handed out, but that has passed. It’s time to get over that and realize most drs. are not just medicating kids anymore, but working with parents to find the best solution. But it is very unfair to call it all a hoax, when there has been so much research and so many have been rightly helped. Having lived through the life of severe ADHD, before it was called this, and finally getting meds as an adult, it has helped me to be able to have some semblance of a semi-normal life. But I would never have realized if we didn’t find out my son faced the same thing in the 3rd grade. We had to decide how to handle it, and meds were the only way. Our lives, our home, was a constant tornado, but we thought that was normal, as I was a tornado just like him. My mother, a school principle, only realized the truth after reading ‘Driven to Distraction’, as I had. She apologized to me for the way I was raised, as she saw my life in the entire book, as I did when I read it. It is horrifying to see one’s life unfolded like that, what one has gone through, the misery, and know it could have been avoided. If one could keep their child from it, it would be cruelty not to. Yes, people don’t believe in ADHD, but those are the people that don’t have to endure the disorder or have a child that has the disorder. ADHD is difficult enough to endure as it is. Take some time to consider the disservice to the many lives your destroying by your declaration of this being a hoax. As with every other situation in life, only when one finds themselves in another’s shoes, then they will understand. – Cynthia Long, M.A. BCCC, Art Psychotherapist