I would like to hear Megan write about what individualism is and what interdependence looks like that isn’t codependent. I’m being sincere. I agree with much of how she defines what she’s experienced and the way she words these things that need to stop, I intrinsically agree with her. I feel lost after what she says though. I feel overreactive in my victimization and I feel angry (as I should) and I don’t know how to approach elderly parents who didn’t know how to parent in a way that wasn’t abusive and wasn’t teaching me individualism or demanding someone to be something they didn’t know how to do (because this is who I would attract consistently-I’ve given up now). I simply don’t know how to take in emotionally what she’s honestly and convincingly arguing to need to stop. I feel I’m setting myself up to be bullied in saying all this out loud. I also feel bullied already and don’t know how to not overreact (as I believe she understands) of what I’ve come to expect from those who ‘love me’ and ‘know me’ best. It’s too heartbreaking much of the time to really accept.