I’ve been pondering this stuff for a while, and I’ve determined we have epigenetic responses to abuse – but I’m not sure the reverse is true, I’m not sure there is any real biology to support healing, like psychological healing, I’m sorry to say. For me, if things are going to improve for our kids and their kids, the thing is to stop the abuse, to stop the epigenetic changes, start to slowly turn things around, Lamarckian evolution, bit by bit, generation by generation. Stopping abuse, though – it’s not simple. We’re pretty sure we need it, and many, many parents plan to “not spank” and basically all fail – not reasonable, I know, but true. We treat abuse as an accident, although we treat LEGITIMATE abuse as mandatory and we can’t make the connection, we don’t think there’s a reason that we almost MUST abuse, and that the good stuff isn’t scientifically different from the bad stuff. But there is. I’m not saying the reason is right, just that there’s a reason, and we have to stop pretending it’s all an accident and address the reasons, change the situation. Generation by generation.