Tuesday, March 31, 2020

Comments by Paul Eff

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  • While I agree with you that spending significant time trying to find the origins of our suffering can actually only perpetuate that suffering, I wholeheartedly disagree with your implied assertion that exploring the pain is the same as seeking the origins of it. Very often our lack of nourishment comes from not being seen and not being heard. If we don’t enter into the inferno with the client, we will suggest to them that their pain is unimportant. Because as biological creatures we are hardwired to identify with our pain (for survival reasons), if we ignore the hunger we also run the risk of ignoring the person, thus perpetuating the lack of nourishment. Before we can learn to transcend our pain, we must first learn to gently be with it. As clinicians, we are in the unique position to help our clients learn this remarkably useful, self-affirming, transformative skill.