Thursday, May 6, 2021

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  • Karin,
    As a former inpatient and now, years later, a practicing therapist, I greatly appreciate and heartily agree with your message.

    You might enjoy this excerpt from a blog I wrote about yoga and psychotherapy. ( https://www.thomasabartlett.net/single-post/2017/09/11/Yoga-and-Psychotherapy )

    “ There is a wonderful passage found in RD Laing’s Divided Self, which he got from Franz Kafka: “You can hold yourself back from the sufferings of the world, that is something you are free to do and it accords with your nature, but perhaps this very holding back is the one suffering you could avoid.”

    What is Kafka saying? To be human, we have but to suffer, but insofar as we try not to, we only make our suffering worse. Not to mention miss out on life.

    This insight might serve well as a litmus test to distinguish psychotherapists worthy of your trust from those you should probably avoid. If any therapist seems ready to take away your suffering for you, whether through techniquery, all-too-knowing explanations or drugs, she probably is not all that in touch with her own suffering.

    Suffering is the paradox at the heart of therapy. Many patients come more or less asking us to help rid them of their suffering, to *cure* them. Our job is really quite the opposite, to enable them *to* suffer, “

    Tom Bartlett