Wednesday, July 28, 2021

Comments by RippleOn

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  • just wanted to thank you for a thoughtful, beautifully written piece. its right on, – medicalizing human reactions/emotions – and much appreciated.

    also, keep doing what you’re doing! i know it’s not easy and some days will be harder than others but sounds like you are doing the hard work and finding ways to deal with the hard days or just get through them.

    wishing you peace.

  • Charlatans can prosper only in a world of people who don’t think.

    Oh, if only it were that easy. There is so much confusing information out there. So many different opinions (by different doctors, people with lived experience, spiritualists, etc) on the best treatments. Even people with lived experience don’t have the answers for serious mental illness – or if you do, please tell me how to help loved ones. i lost my amazing son who was diagnosed with schizophrenia. i did so much research and was open to trying anything, even if it was considered “woo woo”. i recognized early on the psychiatric community itself did not have the answers, but no one else did either. we were scared, confused, and didn’t know where to turn for help. All we knew was that we loved matt fiercely and we tried everything we could to help him fight what no one seemed to know how to help. sadly matt died by suicide shortly after being diagnosed. i continue to research, speak out, and try to find solutions as a few people have turned to me for help with their own loved ones. i’ve started a resources page posting the research that i had so far and hope it will be a living resource with others contributing what has helped them. i know that every person is different and what works for one person won’t necessarily help another, but it might. so if you can add anything to my resources page, i’d be grateful for any new information.
    as for this article, i found it very good. for those of you directly involved in the mental health community on either side, you may be well aware of all this, but there are still so many people who have no idea how little the scientific community can actually help. the majority of people think mental illness is related to a chemical imbalance and given a drug it will fix it. this is a wonderful article and much-needed info to get out to the masses. this is also the work of MIA and it’s much appreciated. thank you.
    – if you can add anything to my living resources page, here’s the link: https://mattskindnessrippleson.com/uncategorized/help-for-serious-mental-illness/#more-1907

  • i’m sorry if that felt like an attack on you, it wasn’t meant to be. it just made me sad for warren, when i read your post. one thing i do know is that i don’t know what it’s like to be you or warren or anyone else, only myself. i am lucky to have good mental health (and i do believe it’s luck, no one chooses or deserves to suffer from mental illness, it randomly attacks innocent victims) but i do have people i love suffering. and no i’m not a fan of meds or the way the medical community deals with mental illness.

    i’m sorry you have not been able to help warren as much as it sounds like you wanted too. it’s all so damn frustrating and some people respond to one method of treatment while others with the same diagnosis don’t respond at all.

    i wish you and warren peace and health.

  • sorry rachel, but less judgement and more compassion. “he lay in bed wallowing in self pity and bitterness” is your judgement. you really don’t know how or what he was feeling unless he told you and i’m guessing that didn’t happen. he could have been truly suffering from depression or psychosis, or anxiety or any number of mental health issues. “selfish”, again, judgement. “continued to insist he was bipolar” – your judgement is he wasn’t – do you know that to be a fact?

    “don’t you see this is actually a choice?” No it’s not. this as a huge part of the problem with the stigma about mental health – the just suck it up and be happy attitude. there was an amazing blog i read, the writer, Libba Bray, described her depression so viscerally (?-usage, ie. i could feel every word she described). it was beautifully written and unbearably sad but i think everyone should read it to get a better understanding of what depression really is like. i don’t know if this will get deleted but here’s the link to it (fyi – i am in no way related to or know anyone at this site) https://kindnessblog.com/2016/01/22/miles-and-miles-of-no-mans-land-by-libba-bray/ if it’s deleted, i’m sorry, but the takeaway is it’s not a consistent state. you can be in a depression and still laugh at a friends joke or have a good time at dinner but at other times it’s deep dark hole. you can’t just chose to be happy. “There is an undertow to depression. It doesn’t take you all at once. It leaves you with some false sense that you are coping. That you are in control. That you have the shore still well in sight, until, at some point, you raise your head to find yourself all alone, battered by rough seas with absolutely no idea which way you should swim.” by libba bray.

    last, i come back to compassion. when someone says they want to die, compassion is a good response. no judgement, just empathic listening.

  • First, Mat – thank you for sharing your very moving story. not only are you amazing in how you’ve managed your recovery, but you are sharing what you’ve learned and that is helping others to try using some of your strategies. at your young age, you’ve already touched many lives. that is a great legacy. you are amazing, always remember that.

    now i need to speak up for parents. i don’t know mat’s parents so i can’t speak for them directly but as a mom of an amazing son diagnosed with schizophrenia i can say it’s very possible his parents did all they could with what they knew. they most likely relied on doctors to tell them what was wrong and how to handle it (and this started many years ago so there was even less information). my guess is they were scared and wanted to help him but didn’t know how. And later when he was finally finding his way – from his parents perspective they saw their son, standing on a beam for an hour every day, not talking to anyone for about a year, and sleeping in his brothers car even though he had a home to sleep in. from a mom’s perspective i would be very worried.

    i hope mat is able to work with his family and teach them how best to be with him – although i believe it was buddha who said, when you feel you have finally reached enlightenment, go home and visit with your family and see how enlightened you really are.