Thank you so much for this sharing Annette.. you offer such a clear and moving picture. This phrase “Eric was a very happy child, full of light, and I think my father couldn’t stand it – he was a ‘dark’ man, who would spill over with anger at the slightest thing” is very potent to me.. I have seen this play out in both my own family and my ex-husband’s. I think of it as an expression of the wounded masculine. In my work as a healer I see this dynamic play out in what I think of as karmic patterning, where the vulnerable one, the “beautiful” one as you describe your brother, seems to energetically call aggression to them, as if they are the one to digest so much of the imbalance all around. I only wish my son would be receptive to something like Open Dialogue – I think it could be a powerful support. Unfortunately due to the anosognosia he stubbornly resists any and all treatment. Thank you again for your kind words.