An “enlightened witness” to the past is crucial in allowing someone to leave the impact behind. However rote revisitations to the past undertaken by CBT without building a relational connection can do a great deal of damage. The referral form at St. Mungos for therapy aimed at homeless people asked the question “Have you ever been sexually abused?” This is just being plain crass. Issues around the past arise within a relationship based up trust and are resolved through a deep relational meeting of resonating minds and bodies. Simple rote therapy and returns to the past with the aim of providing a “cure” can cause harm because the interaction relies on technique not connecting to the person.