Hi Peter I really like your article and mostly agree with what you are saying but this paragraph is way too much of a generalisation. “Nearly everything we call emotional distress or “psychiatric disorders,” regardless of how severe they are, involve a failure to give and to receive love. Experience teaches me that it is impossible to be loving and crazy at the same moment. It is equally impossible to be grateful and depressed at the same time.” You see I believe that I am very able to give and receive love but I can still go crazy. In fact sometimes it is the fear of losing someone we love that can drive me crazy or the inability to love someone I am “supposed” to because they have abused me that screws me up. I use the last time I went crazy as an example (which was only August last year). I had shifted house (which was the worse shift I have ever done as far as things going wrong) and about a month earlier had come to the realization that my mother wasn’t going to get better and it was not going to be very long before she died. (she died in December) also the person who abused me (who is a family member) turned up unexpected and my mum was always trying to “make things right” between us. Also whilst I was crazy I was able to give and receive love for the majority of the time although I must admit there was about 24hours when I couldn’t due to being too crazy. Interesting though that as I write this it remains about love, just not as simple as giving or receiving it. Certainly being consciously grateful has been my weapon against depression. I also wonder if I went crazy then, so that when my mum eventually died I could be there lovingly for my family and embrace the love that surrounds us. The abusive family member I even handled really well during her funeral and internment. I also agree with ILNC that loving ourselves really opens the door for giving and receiving love.