Monday, January 27, 2020

Comments by mikeo59

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  • I think the challenge may be more basic.

    I have been a Certified Peer Specialist for 8 years and have received extensive training in both anger management and grief counselling. The main reason is that the agencies I worked for at the time had no licensed clinician on their staff that wanted to do either of these.

    Strange that they would think that the most potentially vulnerable of their staff should take this on 😉

    I found I have an affinity for both and my world and my recovery has become so much richer for it.

    I work with a group of truly wonderful caring clinicians now and yet when I came here and they looked at my background you could hear a collective sigh of relief that I could take both of these areas over.

    I work for the VA and vets can be angry and they have experienced traumatic loss at a greater percentage then the population in general, so I am busy. Far too busy.

    When I work with someone learning to live with grief, my first question is “Tell me all about them, every last detail and don’t leave anything out” most of the folks say something like “Really, nobody else wants me talk about…”

    Is it uncomfortable? As first , sure but then you realize you are being entrusted with the magnificent life stories of these people you will never meet. It’s a gift that can only be experienced and never adequately explained.

    So don’t tell me about the DSM, diagnoses, time limits or definitions. This is far too important for that kind marred 😉

  • I have been reading this exchange with interest. I was not going to chime in but now feel it’s time.

    Alex has some points, but for an entrenched system to change would take far longer than the RLC has and would depend on eliminating most stigma in the general public. I fear if those who provide mental health services had to forage for money it would not end up being the utopia that Alex envisions.

    My first training in Mental health, other than my forced hospitalization, was at the RLC and it was on advocacy and it ignited a fire that still burns today.

    There has been times over the years that I have worked with and for the WMRLC and I have never regretted one second of that time I invested.

    However, I have always had what I call a sibling relationship with them. By that I mean we can argue and fight over an issue or concept but in the end we are related and connected in the common cause of self-determination and freedom from oppression of any and all kinds.

    I have always been a maverick and more than willing to share my ideas and outlooks 😉 this has led to many spirted conversations between Sera and myself and a few really good ones with Ms. Forestall 😉 Mostly around language and Peer roles. We were even on a panel debating all of that last year at the DMH.

    So, having said all of that let me say this:

    I cannot imagine or envision, nor would I want to, a world without the WMRLC. I would miss my sparing partners, they keep me thinking and always evaluating.

    Far more importantly, we would lose the one and only place here in WM that provides the most important medicine that all of us need. A place to come where no one judges and folks are willing to simply sit, hold your hands and be a quite presence that says profoundly “I am here”

    That ability is one of the most challenging to master but once you do it creates truly symbiotic relationships, the most powerful, intimate, wondrous and magical of all relationships.

    I love you folks, keep fighting, I will calling and writing everyone I can think of.
    Mike

  • Sera
    You and have known each other for more than a few years and we have not always been on the same side of an issue. But I have firmly believed that growth comes from a strong civil debate between two strong people.

    In August we will do it again and I can’t wait as I feel, you, perhaps more that anyone pushes me to sincerely revaluate my points of view.

    When I heard what happened at the respite my heart broke. We both put a lot of work into that house. I spent three years on the ground hogs and you brought it to life.

    I have had an idea of the Gordian knot the incident created for you.

    My message, to you, from one old warrior to anotheris simple DON’T CHANGE NOW.

    In every life there are great challenges, and in every challenge there are great doses of life to be lived.

    Whether you judge a challenge to be a problem or an opportunity says more about you than about the challenge itself.

    The way you choose to see the world is the way your world will be.

    This is what gives life its magic; it’s a continuous, dynamic phenomenon that becomes exactly what you choose to make it.

    So, today in the middle of this muddle you are slogging through I ask you to Do something extraordinary.

    Accept life’s opportunities. Realize that if you never step up to a challenge that’s a bit over your head, you’ll never know how tall you truly are.

    Rise to each challenge and continue adding value to the ever-growing possibilities that awaits our special Peer brand of unique brilliance.

    You are right here, right now, breathing. Enjoy it. You’ve got nothing to do today except to smile.

    Happiness is valuing what you have, and enjoying the people, places, objects and events in your life for what they are.

    It’s not about changing and achieving all the time, it’s about being and appreciating. And you can nearly always enjoy the things happening around you if you make up your mind firmly that you will.

    OK, climbing down off my soap box 😉

    Below are what some great folks had to say about challenging times. It should not surprise you that the last one is my favorite 😉

    I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders. – Jewish Proverb

    One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity. – Albert Schweitzer

    I learned there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead, others come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me. – Dr. Seuss