Tuesday, November 12, 2019

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  • This is a very interesting article as it explains what happened to me during extensive therapy for domestic violence and sexual assault that focused on processing past feelings instead of helping me to get on with my life. The instant I left therapy and shifted to setting personal goals the deep anguish lifted. In fact, I felt amazingly light and calm. Unfortunately, I am left with the burden of the abusive messages and inappropriate behavior endured by a series of psychiatrists who appeared more determined to find my weak-spots than to help me navigate my life based on personal strengths. I ignored the comment that I was too stupid to complete my PhD and that was the source of my depression, I also ignored the comment that I was too sick to work and resumed employment, I said no to sexual invitations and left those offices as well, and finally left psychiatrists offices all together after the ninth psychiatrist grew upset when I challenged his increasing fees and then claimed that I would have no friends. After leaving, I suddenly felt incredibly calm and happy as I no longer had to sift through all the past trauma and could focus on current work, relationships and personal projects.
    Ironically, the exploitation, denial and abuse experienced in psychiatrists’ offices closely mirrored the similar pattern of abuse and neglect in my family of origin. Those who profit from finding people’s weak-spots and gradually aim to isolate and then make their clients dependent on them at a price are doing a lot of damage. In fact, the notion of Maunchaussen by proxy may ring true for many therapists who either consciously or unconsciously delight in creating “sickness” in their clients to gain attention and money for themselves. Constantly picking and probing for psychic scabs does nothing to cure a person and can make their symptoms far worse. As this article reveals, a shift of focus from the past to the present can bring instant relief. Borderline personality can be manifested in clients by too much emphasis on past abuse and too little emphasis on rewarding goals in the present. Such digging in the past may actually trigger a pattern of negative rumination that makes a client’s symptoms flare. Hence why a good therapist helps to set current goals and strategies for current change instead of insisting on unearthing past problems or triggering anguish or distress in their clients by delving into past abuse and trauma.
    Shifting the focus to positive events and positive goals lifts depression faster than trying to discover the original source of a person’s bad feelings. Meditation lifts a mood and calms the mind far better than negative introspection. Loving kindness mantras incorporated internally helps a person far more than seeking loving kindness from an external source. Needless to say, I now laugh at the horror stories I confronted while seeking help from supposed professionals who seemed intent on making me the “sick” object to be scrutinised or triggered for symptoms rather than considering my inherent strengths. At the end, psychiatrists have an uncanny knack of blaming any negative reaction on transference rather than admitting that their behaviour and exploitation may have aggravated or upset their patient. Sexual abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse are common practice in psychiatric offices. After all, a doctor is trained to take an objective detached stance and treat a patient as an object to be studied for negative symptoms. Instead of actually connecting on a human level and seeing this as a person who deserves to be heard and helped to feel better about themselves many ignorant physicians feel tempted, and sadistically amused, to open old wounds and leave their patients alone in anguish. Often nothing is currently wrong with the client beyond believing a quack knows them better than themselves and will offer help to alleviate their distress. The god-like interpretation is based on the fact that the doctor is healthy, strong and wise you are sick, weak and stupid.
    Psychiatrists profit by triggering pain and symptoms in their clients. Not one offered therapy, helped to set positive goals or actively listened. If I had stayed in treatment I would have become too sick to function and helplessly dependent on a stranger who profited and derived sick amusement from my ongoing distress. As a collective, psychiatrists need far greater scrutiny and the patient should be entitled to record sessions to create equal power instead of the doctor’s notes being the sole point of reference. I have heard of too many psychiatrists who refuse to let their clients go under the guise that they will be dead without their help, or act vindictively or lie when their client attempts to leave treatment. Cure by catharsis is rubbish designed to create a needy population dependent on a therapist who profits from their distress. Those patients in critical need may be helped, but those who are functioning well will be reduced to meet the need for power and control inherent in this unequal relationship. If the psychiatrist is mentally unwell or suffers from a personality disorder his clients will suffer. In retrospect, I learned that treating psychiatrists I had visited suffered from bipolar, major depression and paranoid schizophrenia, and many were racist, sexist and highly competitive, abusive and controlling. How could such people and treatment help anyone feel better?