Tuesday, May 26, 2020

Comments by hannah87

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  • So basically, you want to ignore all of the children who are debilitated by ADHD symptoms? And what about all of the adults who are debilitated by ADHD symptoms, for that matter? You seem to want to pretend that ADHD is a problem that only affects children, and that cannot ever be debilitating. Whether you like it or not, Dr. Berezin, there are many people out there who cannot live a productive life without ADHD meds. And the fact that you seem to want to prevent those people from getting the meds they need by sweet-talking to them and trying to convince them that meds are harmful for them, sickens me. Heck, you seem to be against all meds whatsoever, which again, is harmful. For some people with depression, meds keep them from killing themselves. But you don’t seem to care about that. Or, in my case, my meds keep me from having constant panic attacks that are so intense that I literally cannot fight them off. Before I started taking meds at age 13, I was miserable. I had such bad anxiety that I couldn’t stand to be alone at all, since being alone caused my anxiety to spiral into a panic attack. I never really got to enjoy my childhood as a result. Yet when I was put on meds, life became more manageable for me. But you’d rather ignore that fact and try to convince me to get off of meds altogether. Do you really think that’s a good idea, Dr. Berezin?

  • “First of all I don’t equate being valuable to society with holding down a job.”

    In order to survive in society, you need to hold down a job. And if you can’t survive, then who cares if others think you’re valuable? Also, do you just not care about how fed up my parents are with having to support me?

    “Secondly, we do not think that people in current system get everything they need to reach their potential.”

    Who exactly is “we”? Also, unless you have a cure for social anxiety and depression, then I can honestly say that I am getting everything I need in order to reach my potential. I have two parents who genuinely love me, a place to live (for the time being), monetary support, and very little stress. I’m my own obstacle. I’m preventing myself from reaching my potential, so why pretend that that’s due to outside forces? Tell me, have you ever actually studied psychology?

    “Why do you think you don’t have any strengths or are totally unable to use them? You’re communicating with us now, here.”

    Yes, because communicating with strangers online (which is making me anxious, by the way) is all you need in order to be successful in life. (And remember that part of success is having a job, since you can’t survive without a job.) I can barely talk to anyone at all. I spend my days isolating myself from the world and I have no friends at all. Talking to others takes a lot of energy, so I can’t do much of it. Tell me, do you even care about how miserably lonely I am, or about how much my isolation limits my ability to get a job? It sure seems like you don’t care about either of those things.

    “There are people (even here at MIA) who are quadriplegic and are able to write books, be activists, work or even travel. Of course they require help of dedicated others but they also give back. I remember a story about one guy who was paralyzed neck down and was trying to get a right for assisted suicide. It turned out that when he got attention and people actually showed up and helped to improve his life quality he not only stopped being suicidal but also became active in many areas of life.”

    Good for him. What does that have to do with me, though? It’s not like I can just magically make friends, you know. Trust me, I’ve tried. Yet I just can’t get over my social anxiety and my lack of interest in making friends. So why pretend that everyone is capable of getting the help and support they need?

    “That is not to say that I think assisted suicide is never a good option for someone but all too often people have miserable life quality, locked up in institutions while they can lead good productive lives with empathic support.”

    Support systems cost money, you know. I feel lucky to be able to afford to see a therapist and a psychiatrist, but I don’t know how much longer I’ll be able to afford to do that, since I won’t be able to live with my parents forever and use their health insurance. Plus, like I’ve said many times, I can’t just make friends. So, once I can’t live with my parents anymore, I’ll be poor and friendless. Why do you expect me to be the least bit positive about that?

  • I hope you realize that’s not true for everyone. I mean, I’ve gained nothing from my depression and social anxiety, other than feelings of bitterness and resentment towards those who have it easier than I do, and a profound feeling of loneliness and self-hatred. My depression and social anxiety have also made me almost completely dependent on my parents, which is really wearing on them, seeing as I’m about to turn 28 and they’re tired of having to support me. So count yourself lucky that you were able to be productive at all during your time of low-functioning.

  • “It’s not that we should deny that people have significant problems in adjusting to live in a society. It is about acknowledging that people are different and changing society in such a way that needs of these people are met and they can use their strengths to contribute to our well-being as well.”

    What if people don’t have any strengths, though, or their strengths are negated by their weaknesses? I know that, for me, it’s hard for me to do much of anything most days, due to my depression, and my ability to communicate with others is hindered by my social anxiety. So I’m barely able to work at all, and the work I do (I have a work-from-home job on the weekends that only gives me about 4 to 6 hours of work on average) makes me feel exhausted and stressed. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to make enough money to support myself. As a result, I can honestly say that I hate having Asperger’s Syndrome, and I wish there could be a cure for it. Yet no one seems to want to help me fight for that cure. No, I’m just expected to continue to suffer. Can you honestly not see how hurtful that is for me?

  • The neurodiversity movement is hurting those of us who genuinely are debilitated due to our autism. Do you even care about that? Not to mention that those of us who are debilitated by our autism need to be able to use the descriptor “low-functioning” so that we can get the supports we need. Without that descriptor, there’s no reason for anyone to think we need any help or support at all. Again, do you care about that? It seems to me like all you care about are autistic people who aren’t debilitated and who can function independently. Well, from an autistic woman who struggles daily with social anxiety, depression, hypochondria, and general anxiety disorder (and yes, all of those conditions were professionally diagnosed), and who can barely work as a result of all of those conditions, I’m not going to stand for that.