Sunday, November 17, 2019

Comments by rivkalevy

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  • Hi Paris, thanks for these articles.

    Part 1 was one of the best things I’ve ever read on the subject of what’s really causing mental health issues, and I’m sharing it around as much as I can. Thank you!

    I just wanted to mention that I think God is the elephant in the room with the whole discussion of mental health. We’re rightly focusing on the fact that modern society has become such a breeding ground for bad character traits, fear, worry, anger, control issues, and all the other negative things that create the heady brew required for mental and emotional illness to thrive.

    But a huge part of why society is becoming so rotten and ‘anti-social’ is because the focus has been placed on superficiality and materiality, instead of spiritual achievement, true purpose and striving.

    I know God has been co-opted by many man-made religions with their own (materialistic) ends in mind, but that doesn’t mean that He doesn’t exist, or that the soul is not a fundamental part of the quest for human health and happiness at every level.

    Ignoring God and the spiritual imperative that underlines the whole reason why we’re here in the first place, and why we have to suffer, and how we are meant to learn and grow from these experiences, means that any solution we arrive at is limited and partial, even with the best of intentions.

    Anyway, wonderful articles, thanks again for putting them together, and pulling so much useful research into one place.

    Rivka Levy
    Jewish Emotional Health Institute

  • i enjoyed this post, thanks daniel.

    re: forgiveness – in my experience, if we can’t forgive our parents, then we also can’t forgive that part of ourselves that inevitably reminds us of – and acts similar to – our parents. thus, we end up not being able to truly forgive and love ourselves, if we can’t forgive our parents, at least on some level, and that’s a huge obstacle to growth and happiness.

    there’s a time for everything, and i agree that pushing clients to ‘forgive’ before they actually really understand what they are forgiving is enormously counter-productive, and usually just pushes emotional responses down a level further, where they become even harder to access and heal in the future.

    these ‘lost emotions’ often pop again later in life as the basis for so-called psychosomatic physical issues.

    If the problems are not solved at an emotional level they don’t disappear: they just cause other emotional and / or physical issues down the road.

    That said, in my experience many clients are very resistant to plumbing the depths of what their parents ‘did’ to them, even if they have a superb therapist who’s encouraging them to do that work, because it’s far too painful, especially if they themselves are parents, and are aware that at least on some level, they are doing similar things to their own children, usually unwillingly, and can’t seem to stop themselves from repeating their parents’ mistakes.

    it takes a very big therapist, with some very big spiritual back-up, to have the courage to encourage their clients to plumb those depths. if a therapist hasn’t gone to those dark places themselves – and come out of it again – they simply can’t guide their client through the process. i believe it has to have been experienced personally by a therapist, for them to successfully guide others through the process.