Thank you for your support but to say these people do it because they can get away with it is not true. It is seriously affecting my husband’s health & quality of life & worse is not being able to understand himself why his reaction is so extreme or even remember what triggered it. Unfortunately not everyone is in a position financially to walk away & rebuilding your life as a mature person with few resources & little real support a mission. I say little real support because the comments to this article alone indicate how little understanding there is of the problem. Labeling the problem as a behavioral issue due to poor parenting reduces the severity of the issue & its consequences. Mental health issues are very difficult to define & characterize but by putting labels on them we can perhaps start the long journey towards understanding their origins, even if it requires those labels to be redefined along the way. Conventional medicine had to start that way & for too long mental health disorders have been ignored by the medical fraternity & relegated to institutionalizing people to separate them from society hence the reluctance to seek treatment. Every industry has its quacks but that does not mean the journey to better understanding should not be started because we get some things wrong along the way. These forums have a lot of angry posts from individuals on medication because of the way it made them feel. That is not a balanced opinion, for that we would need input from the family as to whether their medicated state made life at home more tolerable & they were able to function better in society. Research studies not internet diagnoses are the way forward. But who will fund the research except pharmaceutical companies in the hope of formulating a medicine they can sell? People rant about the hypocrisy of this but they have no problem taking conventional medication for high blood pressure, cholesterol, headaches etc.