From Mad in Spain: Nobody taught us to bond in any other way than through emotional dependence and control of the other. But, furthermore, no one teaches us that we can feel how we feel and that that is okay, even if it is different from how the majority feels . We have a double job, which is impossible if it is not done with the other, the other, the other. We cannot unlearn suns. We don’t really know how to do it. And then we need those who connect with us to have enough love and patience to accompany us on that path, understanding that it is an unfinished process and not devoid of contradictions.