The tale contained in this piece took place amidst an entire summer of mayhem. I was later told it was a ‘dysphoric mania’. As bad as I was in the weeks leading up to the events of that July night, it was nothing in comparison to the utter despair and pandemonium that followed.
Restraint: (noun) a measure or condition that keeps someone or something under control.
I was first trained in restraint in 2004 when I began working in services, which might require such an intervention to prevent serious harm to the self or another. I rarely had to use the physical aspect of the training, and for this I am very grateful. It is not something I ever took lightly and I clearly recall my huge upset following such events; when things were so unsafe that I had to put hands on somebody for safety reasons. I recall also the efforts made in the hours and days afterward to check in with the person to assure, mind, repair relationships, and re-establish emotional safety. I never expected to be restrained myself.
When one enters the psychiatric hospital it seems all bets are off and previous life norms cease to exist. It feels quite bizarre to ‘switch sides’ so to speak and to find oneself suddenly subjected to the different types of restraint that were previously theoretical or some form of an abstract concept. Environmental restraint sounds almost innocuous when read about. Realising you are locked in on a ‘voluntary’ basis is quite a different experience. I had times when it was almost a relief and times when I thought I might bulldoze through walls in order to get out.
Chemical restraint sounds a bit more threatening, but one might assume it to be a safe landing, softness, a nice hazy drugged state that allows for rest and recuperation. Assumptions are not always accurate however and choice is not always guaranteed. Voluntarily swallowing a tablet that promotes sleep is worlds apart from being forcibly injected with a substance to promote submissiveness.
And, finally, physical restraint, where movement is physically prevented, is to be used as a last resort, when things have become so unsafe that no other intervention is possible. Sounds reasonable perhaps, to get things back under control, however being held down by someone who seems to have lost control themselves is a different reality altogether.
Six years ago, during the summer of 2017, I found myself subjected to all three, simultaneously. Whatever level of hysteria had peaked prior to this ‘intervention’ was a mere taster of the distress and utter mayhem to follow in the aftermath of that night. Objective, non-emotional recall of the exact events of that night is difficult for myriad reasons. It was, perhaps, the most re-traumatising time of my life, at a time when I was in need of the most care and compassion.
I drove myself to the hospital. I was irate, suicidal, angry, upset, traumatised, and quite frankly, unhinged. I wrote previously of an attempt to come off medication earlier that year and it had been going relatively well until I stopped taking Seroquel quite abruptly. This fast withdrawal coincided with a situation through work that was reminiscent of my own early trauma from which I later developed long-standing cPTSD. I had entered some sort of a spiritual or healing crisis and I had not slept in what must have been a few weeks at that stage. I was delirious and somewhat delusional. I felt out of control, distressed and agitated beyond belief and I succumbed to the fact that I needed help and I needed it fast.
I remember sitting in my car in the driveway of my house before leaving for the hospital. I was going voluntarily. The clock read 11:11 and that seemed important and ‘proof’ that I was doing the right thing. The hospital is about a forty-minute drive away. I imagine I arrived before midnight.
I had phoned ahead before going in and spoke to a lady I was familiar with. She had some sort of senior nursing role in the hospital during the dark hours. I had been back and forth with the hospital in the weeks prior, as had others on my behalf. She gave me the go-ahead to come straight in and assured me I would be admitted and taken care of without delay. I was familiar with the hospital as I had been attending as an inpatient since 2009. Many there, in turn, were familiar with me. My ‘file’ was substantial after more than twenty admissions and my personality was such that I did not exactly ‘blend in’ despite my best efforts.
I imagine some hours had passed between the phone call and my arriving at the locked hospital gates. My chaotic mind struggled hugely with organisation and order at that time and packing for a hospital admission was challenging in the extreme. My car was packed to bursting with the most random items imaginable, squashed in, like I had to be ready for any and all situations. It mirrored my internal state. I pressed the buzzer at the gates. I remember the gates opened. I do not recall seeing anybody. I drove into the car park at the front of the hospital and waited a moment. I hoped someone would appear; anybody. The need for human connection of any sort was the strongest I ever remember it being. Nobody came. I tied something around my neck and made some futile attempt to attach it to the car door. It broke. I hit my head on the ground. Still nobody came. I lay there a while, semi-broken.
I heard shouting. It took a minute to realise that the shouting was being directed at me. Telling me to “stand up.” I obeyed and started dragging stuff out of the car. Nobody helped. I was told to go into the hospital. I obeyed. I remember looking at the backs of two people walking ahead of me as I walked in. I don’t remember much else. I was led to a locked unit, ‘Special Care’ and put into a room alone. It was quiet. I was told I needed to rest. I don’t know what I brought in with me but I had no sleepwear or underwear. My clothes were dirty. I was given a nightgown to get me through the night. I changed into it and nothing else. I don’t remember if I showered first.
I recall a brief feeling of relief washing over me. Finally I was safe. Finally there was connection, softness, care. Finally, I no longer had to fight alone. Or so I thought. Panic started to grip me and soon took hold completely. I tried to settle myself. I really tried. I was beyond exhausted. Tired and wired to the extreme. I don’t recall a doctor at that time. I don’t recall medication. I recall the nightgown, the bed, the four lonely walls, the silence and the closed doors. My brain started to scream. It got louder and louder and louder. My body began to shake. I felt trapped and terrified. And as my brain reached a crescendo, I felt like I might combust and explode all over those clean walls.
In that terror-stricken state I burst through the door and up to the nurses’ station. I was asked to be quiet. I was crying and wailing, distraught and terrified and my body was jerking in quite an uncontrollable manner. I asked to go outside. They said no. There is a small, contained, internal garden in that ward. In the weeks leading up to this time, the only thing that helped when I got to that state was to be outdoors, either barefoot on the ground, or sitting, or lying directly on it. It was as if there was an electrical charge running through my brain and body and the only way to begin to neutralise it was to earth it.
I asked again. They said no. After three times hearing no I stopped asking and started demanding. My language was not exactly ‘ladylike’; nor was my tone. The reactions back to me were not either. I got mad. They got mad. I got madder. I reached out and, with my hand, swiped a number of files clean off the desk and onto the floor. Papers went everywhere. They opened the door to the garden.
I recall the relief of the cooler night air, the smell of the grass and the city sounds slightly off in the distance. There were two nurses with me. I recall some kindness coming from someone dressed in blue, a nurse; she tried to help, like a solo flame of compassion. I would love to say I calmed completely. I didn’t, but the intensity began to reduce, like a ferociously boiling pot of water might reduce to a simmer should the flame beneath be reduced. I recall trying to light a cigarette from a borrowed lighter but struggling, as my body was still shaking and jerking quite a bit. It took many attempts. I am not sure how long I was out there; it could have been three minutes, it could have been fifteen. Time felt funny. I do know, however, that I broke some rule or expectation around time outside that I had not been made aware of.
I saw two more people walk towards me from inside. It was the female from the earlier phone call and a male. They ordered me in. I asked for more time to finish the cigarette. They ordered me in again, and when I did not immediately comply, I was lifted off my feet and carried inside. To say I boiled over would be an understatement. I do not recall ever being so scared and as though my entire nervous system had been electrocuted, I kicked and screamed and buckled as if to save my own life. Hands seemed to appear from nowhere and I was brought to ground.
All sense of time and space, right and wrong, dissolved into nothingness and I heard a primal scream erupt that seemed to last an eternity. It took some time to realise that it was coming from me. There were hands everywhere, it hurt, and I was face down on a cold hospital floor. I felt I couldn’t breathe but they said I was making too much noise not to be breathing. The holding intensified. I roared obscenities and it intensified further. I continued to try to kick and get away but it was futile. I felt the nightgown I was wearing, with nothing at all beneath, being pulled above waist level. There were hands everywhere; on my legs, my back, between my legs and still, the shouting to be still. My submissiveness came before the needle made contact. The shock and shame of such a violation silenced me. I lay there, face down, mostly naked, humiliated and shamed. I sobbed. I was truly broken now, and deserved all I got.
The next few days are a blur. I checked out of my body; I had to. And I bided my time. My ‘good behaviour’ allowed me to get moved next door to a more semi-locked ward. Instead of two or three locked heavy doors to get through, there was only one. I was so highly medicated I found it difficult to walk. I recall trying to roll cigarettes but constantly dropping everything. I ended up carrying around all of the cigarette paraphernalia in a little cardboard kidney dish to at least keep it all in one place. A friend visited during those days and I recall her referring to me as being like a baby deer learning to walk. My speech was slurred and I could barely move. After a couple of days in that half-locked ward and ‘playing the game’ I got permission to go to hospital bingo in the main part of the building. I walked into the main hospital, out the front door, got into my car and drove home, leaving all of my belongings behind me.
What followed is not the happy ending of escape and realisations but rather an amplification of every trauma symptom I had ever previously experienced, plus the addition of a resurfacing of all of the previously repressed traumatic memories. I was hyper-aroused, hyper-vigilant, paranoid and all types of so-called ‘delusional’. Like a feral, abused animal, I hissed and snapped at anyone who tried to come near me, regardless of their intentions. I became wilder and more reckless in the pursuit of my own demise but urgently wanted to ‘save all children’ from abuse and harm prior to my own exit. My intentions were noble but my methods were awry and I was a walking traumatised five-year-old, under attack, in a woman’s body wreaking havoc and upsetting the status quo wherever I turned. And there were many turns; and many tales yet to be told.
But for now — the restraint. ”First, do no harm.” I tried to complain. “Policy,” they said.
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