There may be a way to conceptualize neurodiversity without falling into the trap that you describe, Steve. Think of the neurobehavioral space as a multidimensional represention of where people map on all the dimensions of their neurological functioning. Those who fall close to the average (say, plus or minus one standard deviation) along several core dimensions — such as preference for social contact, emotional processing style, sensory processing sensitivity — would be considered “neurotypical.” Those who fall towards the tails of the distributions on several core dimensions would be considered “neurodiverse.” In this scheme, being neurotypical is just a description of one’s position within a central cluster in the space – it need not be a judgment of “normality” as some inherently better state. This conceptualization allows for a lot of variation in human behavior – even those in the neurotypical space could be outliers on a couple of dimensions (confirming your idea that “we’re all ‘neurodiverse’ to a large extent”). It also allows people to be neurodiverse without necessarily fitting into any of the currently defined labels that are considered neurodiverse – “autistic,” “ADHD,” “tourette’s,” etc.