Thursday, October 24, 2019

Comments by Lauren Spiro

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  • CatNight,
    Thank you for writing. The brilliance of Janet was that her profound understanding of the liberation process and how to learn to trust our unique abilities to think well about ourselves and the world around us. Her suggestion that I say “there was never anything wrong with me” didn’t work for me in my situation either. It was so radically counterculture and it was not what I believed about me.

    It took me many years of emotional release work to consider the possibility that this might be true. It meant looking at the personal, social, economic, political implications if in fact her direction to me was true. I was highly skeptical but I had tried everything else I knew available to people in order to feel more fully alive and have a clear sense of meaning and purpose in my life. I knew something was missing in my life but I didn’t know what it was. The “There was never anything wrong with me” contradiction was an idea for me, individually to work on, to use as a springboard for thinking differently and for bringing up emotions that I needed to feel and release. And I only took Janet seriously and looked at this contradiction because I wanted freedom, I wanted more genuineness and something different in my life which I couldn’t quite put my hands on. I didn’t know what I was missing until I began to taste liberation, that is, to learn to separate my genuine self from my patterned way of thinking which I was taught by my culture. Her direction and the enormous amount of support I found in the RC community was essential for me to learning to believe in my own thinking, to believe in myself. And that process took me many many years, however, it was the most important work I have ever done. It changed my whole life. It put me on a course of learning how to clean my perceptual lens and see reality more clearly. Janet also taught me a lot about how to have a vision of an inclusive and cooperative world and how to build it step-by-step and not alone but with the support that I built around me.

    It’s a process that I continue to use regularly because it keeps me on a path of liberation. Last night several of us who knew and loved Janet met to share our feelings about her passing. Doing so was very healing for me. I felt the closeness of others who are coming to terms with her death. It’s such a profound loss for so many of us. And I could feel the depth to which I am not alone in grieving our loss as well as remembering the profound impact she had on so many of our lives.

  • Dearest David,
    Thank you for adding your thoughts. It is hard to find words to introduce Janet to people who didnt know her or of her work. I have never known anyone like her in the multidimensional way she so eloquently lived her life- artist (master quilt maker and former painter), always FUN and funny, highly strategic in that she was spent at least 30 years putting her vision of the world into action and she was a master at doing so effectively. What she did in the RC world (www.RC.org) is nothing short of heroic. She single-handedly brought mental health liberation (MHL) to the diverse leadership of the RC organization. In doing so, she spread grass roots MHL deeply across this planet. Typically at Janet’s international MHL RC workshops and conferences (held in Pa or NY) large contingencies of people came from Europe, the Far East, some from Africa, across North America, always growing our RC MHL community. That community remains very active and alive. She had a strong, smart group of leaders in her inner circle and I look forward to see how they step up and no doubt will continue the bedrock foundation that Janet started.

    David, I love you and have from the day I met you about 12 years ago when I began working for the National Coalition of Mental Health Recovery (www.ncmhr.org) . You and Janet were quite a team and I am privileged to have had the honor of working with both of you, in separate contexts, that is, her in the RC culture.

    What comforts me in these hazy days in coming to terms with her passing is, well… I feel her spirit looking down on us all. She is enjoying seeing what will happen, who will step up – and she will always be there as a guiding light, comforting and cheering us on.

  • Alex,
    Thank you for sharing some of your journey and the benefits of deepening your consciousness, finding your truth and embracing your genuine self found beneath the brainwashing/ damaging conditioning so prevalent in our culture particularly the misinformation dispensed by the mental illness industry.

    I wish you joy, health and healing as your blossoming- your liberation – continues to unfold. I continue deepening my own conscious evolution and practice what I preach so to speak.

  • samruck,
    Thank you for writing. I dont believe I posted about sexist duality. I dont take dualistic viewpoints. I know the high tide lifts all ships. Women will change the world to the extent that they work collaboratively with men and vice verse. We are not islands. We dont do it alone. Sure we can influence and be great leaders but ultimately we need everyone. We need each other, so I dont separate people into boxes which is part of creating war. I want peace peace. I work hard at creating it in my mind and creating it in all of my relationships. It is the hardest work I have ever done.
    I gave up TV and fast food long ago. In fact I have made a lot of changes to live more aligned with my vision of the world. I am sure I will continue to make more changes, much of which is about opening my heart and my mind and reaching for connection and peace. It is there for those who seek it but it is not an easy journey. Well worth it though!!!!
    peace-
    ls

  • Someone Else,
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. If you don’t mind me making a suggestion, I would love for you to read my blog “When the war in our mind ends, peace emerges”. Also, I question whether “good” and “evil” exist or if it is a story we keep repeating. I look through rosy glasses. I REALLY believe in empowerment – on so many levels. Our world is what we create it to be. No Limits – except the ones we impose on ourselves.

  • TirelessFighter3,
    I hope you have gotten some rest. I do not look through a lens of illness, nor do I believe this blog is about illness.
    The quote from the blog (copied below) came from a Pulitzer prize-winning author and journalist with The New York Times. I happen to agree with him.
    “How ironic, we are the most technologically connected generation in human history, and yet more people feel more isolated than ever. The connections that matter most and that are most in short supply today are the human-to-human ones.”
    I also believe in the vast power of the human mind to heal, to create connections, to create peace.
    Thank you for writing

  • The article does have practical information on enhancing our connection to self and others, and therefore feeling more tuned in to the human web – the universal human tapestry. I suggest you re-read the blog with a hopeful perspective, perhaps an open-hearted perspective and definitely read the blog “When the war in our mind ends, peace emerges”.
    Are you ready to feel connected? It is not an easy process. In fact it is some of the hardest work I have ever done. Feeling connected, more than anything else, has changed my life. There is a lot of free information out there (web) on it. Clearly, you need to find what best resonates with you. I wish you well. Feel free to email me if you want more info.

  • Right! Finding peace in our own mind is, I believe, the key. It is about changing our perspective. It is about being hopeful. It is about feeling connected – to self and to others which I think go hand in hand; they reinforce each other. The more deeply I feel connected within myself the easier it is for me to connect with others – to respect them, their perspective- and to build bonds. It is the human bonds after all that change the world.

  • Great article Will. I wish it was easier to tweet out & post on FB- I will work on doing that after I post this. I am, after 8 years with the National Coalition for Mental Health Recovery working for MH reform on the federal, state & local level, rethinking how to best use my resources/my life. I agree, our efforts as a national MH “movement” are largely failing and cooptation and not working at a deeper and more fundamental level of change is leading to massive destruction of minds/lives, of the possibility of an inclusive culture that respects all forms of life.

    My community building work in FL is expanding and in large part, has taken a deep dive. I am looking for the “right” movement – for me – to commit to. For now I am doing more quality meditation and opening up to how I can best bring light to community. I will be training the local police force in Emotional CPR (Spring 2018) which is a significant step forward but more to come! Please keep writing, keep leading. You are such a gift to the world.

  • Sera
    Thank you so much for sharing your insights and the danger that lurks. I envision an international peer support certification process perhaps built upon the peer-developed and peer run national Canadian Certification model which as I see it is completely aligned with the values of peer support. Might I add that peer competencies have already been developed by INAPS and then expanded upon by SAMHSA and published on SAMHSA web. These competencies are aligned and consistent with the Canadian peer to peer support competencies. Would it serve the US peer support community to develop competencies that unlike the fear-based, pathology MHA competencies would be Trauma Informed, socially inclusive and respectful of the wisdom gained by those of us who have been through the mental health system, understand the impact of Menal health oppression and are skilled at supporting people through emotional distress and into a full life in the community ?

    I am committed to create such a US or international certification. if anyone else is interested let me know via email, [email protected] or email INAPS. I hope that INAPS will step forward to coordinate a certification that will genuinely enhance our ability to support each other on our healing journey’s.

  • Exquisitely written, powerful. Thank you.
    I am considering signing up for the class.
    And I feel inspired to write a blog about my own torture as a 16 year young person locked in a psych ward. If enough of us shine the light on the sugar coated torture the prison guards might think twice about the pain they are inflicting. We get to use our battle scars as teachers.
    And we get to lift those whose eyes are still blinded – or blurry – as you have lifted me

  • I enjoyed the blog. The more I learn to embody the process of IPS the more deeply rewarding my relationships and my life are. I don’t realize how judgmental I am until I slow down enough to observe my mind using labels (eg, “that’s crazy”, “that’s stupid”) in an attempt to feel in control. What I am actually doing is reacting based on old learned fear in an effort to protect myself or to feel powerful – as in I am right, you are wrong. When I open my mind and my heart to be loving and non-judgmental I feel a spaciousness. In that space of collaborative discovery the relationship deepens and I learn so much about letting go and “being with” – being present in the moment with myself and “with” this other person. I find that it opens up a deeper dimension of living. I feel freer, more authentic, more genuine. The impact it has had on my life is that I feel much more peaceful and I notice the beauty and miracle of being in the NOW. One important aspect of my approach is to observe the words I use because each word has power. The more I use only positive words the better I feel. For example instead of saying or thinking – OH What a hard conversation this was or what a difficult person to work with, I now think – and thinking leads to feeling – What an interesting conversation and I see the tremendous strengths in the person I am working with. The result of seeing each person from the highest vantage point and using the best of intentions is that I communicate with a positive energy and that creates a shift in the relationship. It changes the words I use, the thoughts I have and enhances the caring and welcoming tone I broadcast. I hope this makes sense, I have so much more to figure out but I am loving the impact my intentional approach is having on myself and others.
    I am enjoying meeting more and more people who are embodying IPS.

  • SomeoneElse-
    Thank you for writing. Your post gives much food for thought. I address what I can in future blogs. My intention these days is to live the best and highest I can possibly be as a spiritual being in a human life span. The deeper I go into peace-building in my mind the more effective I am at peace- building in the world – in all my relationships, my writings.
    Namaste

  • GetItRight
    Thanks for sharing your insights. I think we live in a traumatized culture and no one escapes being impacted by it- even if they are not aware of its impact. The new normal and day-to-day culture for most of the world is generally dehumanizing, violent, exploitive due to irrational greed, human & civil rights violations and ignorance. I am dedicating the rest of my life to embodying inner peace to create global peace. As I cleanse and purify my body, mind, spirit, emotions I am discovering deeper and deeper levels of peace and that by itself impacts all of my relationships and the way I live. Its been a huge learning curve. I hope you stay in touch. I would like to hear about your pathway towards healing. Practicing and training in Emotional CPR (www.emotional-cpr.org) has been a tremendous tool in my awakening.

  • madmom
    Thank you for writing. I am just now finding your comment. Everyone is impacted by war whether they are aware of it or not. It destroys so much – as you know – and touches every life form on this planet- including damage to the environment. Working on healing from this damage has profoundly changed my life. The hurts to me personally, my family, friends, community – and our entire world society are deeply embedded in our individual and collective psyche. I think a lot about our current fear-based society which I believe is one outcome of so many wars in the last 3,000 – 5,000 years on this planet.
    Wars began on this planet when we shifted from matrilineal to patrilineal societies and competition became the dominate approach rather than prior to that when cooperation and “getting along” dominated human life on this planet. The more we find peace in our own minds the more we create peace in our relationships and in the world. Outer war is a projection of inner war.

  • Iden,
    Thank you for this powerfully written piece. You eloquently point out so many critical points.
    1) With love in our hearts – we must be the change we want to see in the world.
    2) As we move forward it serves us all if we are always mindful of an inclusive framework- how do we include all voices everywhere. Those of us privileged, like myself – being white- we need to take a hard look at and work on healing from our internalized racism. There is no escaping racism particularly if you grew up in America. It is sold to us a “normal”. There is nothing normal about it.
    3) It would be helpful if there were opportunities to work on this within the movement. Frankly, the work I do on this is outside “mental health”. I will join the Forum this evening 8-3-16 – you have the call in info at the end of your blog post. It is also offered 8-9-16, same time.
    4) I would like to do more within the movement so we can create a safe space for white people to work on healing (being free from) our internalized racism and make people of the global majority more central in our movement.

    I could go on but will stop after adding that my MIA blog of last week was about some of my plans to address racism in my community. This issue is so important to me that I am making it more front and center in my life. I invite other white people to do the same. Imagine a world without racism and live your life that way.

    When you see it interrupt it and correct it. If you dont feel like you can at the time then do the work (internal and with other white people) so you can take steps towards ending racism in your life time.

    Taking action to end any form of oppression (rasicm, sexism, classism, able-bodyism, etc) affects all other forms of oppression. The invitation which Iden offered is to change our thinking and behavior, to be hopeful and move towards the lifting upward (higher) of everyone. How else can we build a genuine village where everyone is included. It starts with each of us as individuals – making a stand and a clear intention and then getting support to stay on track.
    Thank you Iden.

  • Thanks for writing Jen. We are all going to die one day – at least our physical body dies. I contemplate the notion of – What lives on? I think we all live on, our energy, our essence, our spirit – what ever you want to call it or whatever you believe. I respect whatever you believe. We get to choose, right? The older and wiser I get the more I find myself believing that life is a lot more than we were taught it was. On a dense level it is physical, what I do concretely day to day. Is that what I am? No.

    I, and I propose that every human being, is much more than what we do and how we act/behave day to day. Are we the observer? If I separate myself from ego and the theatre of day-to-day life (fear-driven, dualistic) then deeper levels of consciousness and awareness are revealed. THAT is where I find meaning and purpose. Who was I born to be? Why I am here? Why take up space & oxygen? I am finding DEEP meaning and purpose as I explore embodying inner peace to create global peace. What would that look like for you? Can you imagine it? I needed to go to Auschwitz and study the death camps of WWII and release rage, terror, fear – with other people doing the same inner work – to find my calling.

    Yesterday I sat eye to eye with a sea turtle that had just laid her eggs and buried them on the beach. Exhausted, she headed back to the water. I sat on the beach with her. We exchanged glances – eye to eye, me and this beautiful creature. At that moment, nothing existed for me but pure bliss, energy, love. I was not in my head. I was on another level – I dont even know what to call it. I have no words to describe it. My experience was so much deeper than words – a peak experience, sacred, Divine…. when she disappeared into the Gulf I stood there and said Thank you, Thank you, Thank you and I cried. I was so deeply moved to be a witness and a participant.

    I am glad I have lived long enough to OPEN to my heart to love, to life, to what is beyond beyond. Life is a series of endless miracles. The fact that I have survived and become what I am is sufficient proof of that for me. How we all survive is nothing short of a miracle!!!!

    insert smile here!!!!

    Imagine a world of peace, of cooperation, of inclusion and live your life that way.

    I hope my words make sense. They came more from my heart than my head.

  • I too, am a graduate of the School of Hard Knocks. I think of myself (and many other survivors of the wounds of living today) as tenacious. strong, tolerant, compassionate, having a thirst for life, for truth for meaning and purpose.

    I had to walk through the fire to begins finding what I am. What is being revealed is far beyond my imagination.

    I am a student of the Universe. I have many teachers. 12-step says when the student is ready to learn the teacher arrives. OH They have arrived and I am grateful. Thank you for writing again Deena. I look forward to connecting.

  • thank you for writing Deena. I would love to have a conversation with you someday to get to know you better. I would like to better understand how and why you put yourself in these – as you say “horrible” situation. I admire your courage, your passion.

    My cell 703-862-6512.
    One thing I will write here is that my understanding is that guilt is not a feeling, it is a judgement. Perhaps you think differently. I any case, I would like to connect.
    be well

  • Sera,
    I always enjoy reading your posts and savoring your wit and your sharp mind. The MHFA article did not disappoint. Although I have not gone through the training I knew a lot about the original US curriculum that they starting using, e.g., 3 smiley faces next to the recommended ECT intervention (UG, promoting brain damage!!). I don’t know if that is still in the training manual. I see from your blog that MHFA has taken language from Emotional CPR (eCPR) which they have been doing for years and perhaps they have “integrated” others trauma-informed language. Based on your article it appears that the MHFA approach is the same-old-same-old fear-based, linear pathology-think that actually makes the world a less safe and less compassionate place.

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

    Lauren
    eCPR Co-founder/Trainer

  • Thanks for writing Frank. I agree with you – social media and expanding technologies are bringing people together in unprecedented numbers to connect and exchange resources, ideas, projects. It totally rocks!!! We are changing the world and that is exciting to see. Visionaries are lighting the way as tens if not hundreds of thousands of people are accessing free or low cost information that gives hope and saves lives. Many of these classes and information exchanges are the foundation for social justice, enlightment, liberation, healing and moving us into a new era.

    Personally, I am moving away from anything that is ANTI-anything. MIA is a collection of bloggers critical of psychiatry – my opinion, my words. Focusing on the positive, the connections, the partnering of values and philosophies, where we can get sparks of insight from the friction of diverse ideas moves change more quickly and seemlessly. No need for duality in a light filled world. We have more in common than we may realize. Ask and yee shall receive.

  • B, Thanks for writing. I loved hosting the dialogues and hearing from diverse people about issues so central in our lives. I am doing more (yes continuing and expanding) in various formats. My website calendar page has information on that (www.laurenspiro.com). I am involved in planning a dialogue that will bring together students from 2 different high schools. As much as possible I want them – the students- to define the issues they wish to explore further but they will most likely be related to mental health liberation, creating peace and social justice.

  • Perhaps the most damaging tyranny is that which dwells in our minds. The invitation, I believe, is to envision a relationship, a community, a country, a world – you fill in the blank – where all people live harmoniously. As I take the time and do the internal work (consciousness raising, radical honesty, paradigm shifting) and the external work (bringing compassion into engaging in harmonious dialogue which deeps and improves relationships) I find it easier to envision, embrace and embody a collective shift in consciousness. I am working on this every day and finding not only that I am changing but that all my interactions and relationships are changing towards more positive outcomes.

    I remember to never underestimate the power of a hand reaching for another, the power of compassion, of caring and letting people know I care and that I want to understand their view of the world. In that way we may investigate other possibilities, other solutions together. I don’t know a better way to create the world the way I want it – peaceful, inclusive, respecting all life forms. Some may think it is impossible but that is an indicator of the damage of tyranny. In order to manifest our vision we must intentionally believe it, speak it, and live it.

  • Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Matthew and in particular for pointing out – and I agree with you – what can easily be interpreted as my being naïve, ignorant and colorblind- which I don’t think I am but words and context matter. I offer a bit more context and explanation below and I have copied your comments of concern for ease of following this discussion.
    Matthew wrote “I want to express some confusion and concern about your repeated suggestion that we “imagine a world without racism and live your life that way.”
    To my eyes, this could be taken as support for liberal “colorblindness” where we pretend racism does not exist and think that merely by working to treat people of color with respect on an individual basis, we are contributing to ending racism”.
    I would like to explain that quite a few years ago I was so concerned about the rampant racism I saw operating in “mental health” settings (and elsewhere) that I wanted to create opportunities to address this head on. One action step I took was to provide training in cultural competency/attunement with an African American partner and we created this phrase “imagine a world without racism and live your life that way” as a means of inviting people to transcend their social conditioning and think and act differently – in non-racist ways. Our interactive trainings addressed racism head-on particularly on a personal and interpersonal level and at this level and in the manner we did the training there were always clear implications for both policy and systems level change that was needed.
    The intent of the invitation is to take the time to ‘be’ different. Our trainings created a safe space to explore racism. Each participant shared rich information including their cultural heritage, who they are, what they think, how their family came to North America, etc. The space that was opened was one in which everyone could show their caring for each other. Typically the trainings were provided to organizations or programs within organizations so people knew each other to varying extents. The process involved engaging our innate curious inquiry and heart-felt compassion to reach for a deep connection, for deeper understanding. In this way we experienced individually and collectively an opening up of our minds which allowed for more honestly, cultural sensitivity and authenticity in our professional and personal relationships.
    What I see pervasively practiced in our culture is people wearing a protective perceptual lens based on their illusion of fear and separation. Racism is one part of the multi-oppression based fear and separation. That learned (not innate) perceptual lens gets fueled by our increasing out-of-control capitalism including the exploitation of all things human and environmental which contributes to the increased violence and disrespect for humanity that currently exists. Sadly and ironically I find that much of my work in the world is about re-learning how to be human and humane and I often do this by facilitating dialogues of discovery. Dialogues create opportunities to evolve our consciousness forward by creating a space where our hearts and minds are open, there is no application of judgment and everyone’s thinking is accurate based on the individual’s perception. Ideally what is created is a synchronistic and harmonious coming together which is hard to describe unless you have been there. The ideal outcome of dialogue is that it lifts us to transcend our cultural conditioning and become aware of the following processes:

    – Sometimes (probably more often that we like to admit) we notice that our thinking gets stuck on a particular belief (e.g., based on racism, mental health oppression, etc.) or ideology that we have not thoroughly examined and let go. It may indicate that more reflection may deepen our awareness or self-knowledge.
    – We see other ways of thinking and being in the world as valid and good – and that means that more possibilities and relationships open up. Our heart and mind expand, our perceptual barriers dissolve. We see life more clearly.
    – When we transcend our social conditioning we become more open to co-creating a new paradigm. In this fertile ground of openness, we think more creatively and therefore can more effectively co-create the communities we want. When the war in our mind ends, peace emerges. And yes, racism in one of the ways we wage war in our mind.
    Practicing this process (opening my heart and mind in a process of liberation) allows me to envision a world without racism – or any oppression for that matter. Embodying hope, I can see a world made up of culturally rich and inclusive communities where every one is respected and valued and given the dignity they deserve.
    On a separate note, I think the excellent article which you cited has many important actions that people can take and should select some of these actions to take if they want to work towards racial justice and perhaps to begin to work on the edges of their own white racism.
    There was one action step in the article you cited that I thought was particularly interesting and relatively easy to do so I copied it below. Can you imagine how we might contribute to ending racist police policies and actions if a lot of white people started filming these injustices?
    8. If You See Injustice Occurring, Do Not Stand Silently or Walk on By. Do you see police officers engaging in a stop-and-frisk interaction? It turns out that it is entirely legal to film police interactions without interfering. Hold police accountable. Watch them. They may be less likely to engage in outright violence if they are being filmed. If not, the video can be critical evidence as police can claim that they were being assaulted, or charge disorderly conduct, when video evidence clearly refutes these claims. There are apps and organizations that accumulate these videos and data. Use them.

    What the article did not mention, however, was the internal work – the emotional and perceptual work we can do to embody justice not only in our minds but in our hearts. How do we genuinely heal from the damage of racism and internalized racism, as well as mental health oppression, adultism and all form of oppression? We can change all the laws in the land – and we have changed many laws (civil rights laws, employment laws via the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission and the Americans with Disability Act laws) but that doesn’t change attitudes. I hope I have sufficiently planted a seed for future conversation that will address the emotional and perceptual or attitudinal issues and how we can come to truly embody justice for all – in our laws and in our hearts. It is good that we have opened this conversation to speak more honestly about oppression and particularly racism. All oppressions are linked so as we clean up the damage done by the internalization of one form of oppression we are cleaning up or freeing ourselves from the damage from other forms of oppression.

  • Yes B, the world does need a civil rights overhaul and that change begins with us. Each and every one of us make choices every day. I dream of approaching the tipping point where we see that every person is treated with respect and dignity and included in the entire life flow of community- all levels, always.

    I see the day when our children, our grandchildren, and our great grandchildren will look back on history and say – Can you imagine a world where events such as Ferguson occur and a world where police officers get away with murdering people who are in acute emotional distress and when homeless people are left to freeze to death on the streets? And the resounding answer is “NO!!! It’s unimaginable”. The world must change and we are the ones to change it. I am grateful that we have this opportunity on MIA to share our thoughts and inspire one another to reach higher. I continue to imagine a peaceful world where everyone is included and concepts such as ignorance and fear-based oppression are far behind us.

  • Thank you for writing chrisreed. I am deeply touched and hopeful that many people continue to demonstrate and get arrested for doing so one week after the verdict. People’s heart-strings are touched and their righteous indignation is spilling onto the streets and the news media. Yeah!! Let the cries for rationality and humanity be heard, let us end these oppressive and clearly racist actions. Thank you for the reference to Sonali’s broadcasts, I have not yet seen them. The Grand Jury (per Rachel Maddow) was given inaccurate and confusing instructions. They were using law that many decades ago was overturned by the U.S. Supreme Court. Let’s call it what it is – oppression, racism and yes the understatement of the decade – over policing.

  • Dear seventhsense,
    Thank you for writing. I find it validating and meaningful when people like yourself find something useful in my writing. Congratulations for reclaiming your power and standing up to the oppressive forces and boldly saying “NO – I am going to reach higher and deeper” and embrace my genuine self amidst the fear-based misguided angst that people bring forth.

    Also – it is great that you have support. I think that is really key. Wouldn’t we all do better and feel more love if we knew we were surrounded by supportive people who truly BELIEVED in us. I can only imagine how very different my life would have been. It seems that relatively few people get that message- particularly amongst those of us who got caught (even for a short time) in the “mental health” system trap. I agree with you – the more who break through the propaganda, the more people will see that we can live without pretense and pseudo-attachments and without flooding our brains with toxic chemicals.

    I hope you join the Dialogues I am offering. I would love to hear more about your emboldened journey. The 1st of 3 Dialogues is: Who are you? Who were you born to be? January 27, 2015 3pm-4:30pm ET/ 2pm – 3:30pm CT/ 1pm – 2:30pm MT/ 12pm-1:30pm PT
    Call 605-562-0020 Meeting ID: 639-365-821
    (Please note – this is not a toll free call, long distance charges apply)

    I am inspired by your strength and courage. Please keep writing, sharing your wisdom and your successes. My web will have more information about the Dialogues and suggested exercises people may want to explore before each Dialogue.

  • Ms. Empowered – I just watched the video
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EdRT56WK7Q
    Thank you for the link and for your heart felt reflections . The words “sorrow of the souls” which first came to me while I stood in the gas chamber of Auschwitz last year, comes to me now. Human history is filled with holocausts. People left Europe for the New World and unawarely brought their corrupted minds and concepts which they forced on the native people of this beautiful land. My heart continues to break for the destruction we bring to all people, all life forms and the environment of this planet.

    Finding peace in times of war is very challenging but we must never lose sight of what is possible. It is always possible to reach for our shared humanity. It is always possible to show love and respect and to do our very best to take responsibility for creating the communities we dream of. What helps me hold on to eternal hope is remembering the whispers of the souls of the past. When I feel their presence and their undefeatable will to survive I remember love. And I feel the radiating light and the wind at my back and I know what I must do. Elie Wiesel (in Night) teaches us great lessons. When I finished reading Night I painted and what came out was a flickering flame amidst darkness. I believe we all have that flame, that chi, that life force – the will to survive. We are born with it just as the blade of grass that finds its way through the cement.

    What is the wind under your wings? What does your soul say in the abyss of darkness? Where is your light, your passion?

    May we find peace together

    PS I am still intrigued and wondering about the dragonfly. I didn’t see it in the video but I know it is there.

  • thank you all for commenting. Fred, I have not seen the movie, do you mind sharing what you found to be poignant about it? I find myself integrating so much information currently that I can not find words to properly respond to some of your comments. I will say, however, that yesterday while facilitating a dialogue at Boston University, I shared my experience and learning from Auschwitz. With the wind at my back I am drawn to share my lessons learned (via dialogues) as I deepen my healing from trauma and oppression and to do so in a heart-felt manner that invites others to share their wisdom, experiences and questions. How can we inspire people (especially those who do not follow MadinAmerica) to think holistically about the power of our mind and our body as intelligent resources on our path to liberation. In response to the 1st comment (by B) I wonder how we can build alliances with people whom we perceive as different from us. I think it takes courage, compassion, and a foundation of forgiveness and love to genuinely reach for others and build bonds and connections that can lead to further healing and peace making. I don’t believe inner peace and outer peace will occur unless we intentionally focus on creating it. And embody it every day. If we want to be effective change agents then we need to not only envision but embody the change we want to create.
    I write these words from the MadinAmerica International Film Festival 2014, Arlington, MA.
    Laura Delano (festival organizer) Rocks BIG TIME!!!!!!

  • thanks for writing a post on ECT Philip. Personally I find the procedure barbaric and unnecessary. There are many less invasive approaches that do not cause harm. Unfortunately we live in a society where many want – and are desprite for quick-fixes that in the end aren’t fixes at all.

    And don’t get me started on the massive misinformation taught to medical students and the brainwashing done by big Pharma and the media out of fear, ignorance and greed

  • thanks for writing Ted. I find it very helpful to hear from the ends of the continuum of opinion – and I say that as a compliment. You, having choosen to work outside the system – are free to express yourself with complete transparency of your best thinking. I admire your tenacity, intelligence and passion. When I chose to attempt to represent the ‘national’ c/s/x voice in my working with the NCMHR – I understood my job to be that of navigating through tumultuous waters stirred by many diverse and often opposing view points. My personal opinion, when more radical or far from center – was not communicated publically as that would, at times, conflict with navigating the center of the NCMHR.

    Unless I am completely deluding myself – I chose trying to unite this country in order to strengthen our advocacy voice and win some battles. NCMHR public policy priorities by the way have always been voted on by our national statewide membership.

    I think the most effective way to effect change on the federal level is to get consensus from your constituency and advocate your ground. We win some battles but we don’t win the war for the hearts and minds of the people of America. While that saddens and unfuriates me sometimes – I think we give it our best shot.

    We have won some important battles including NOT having ECT machines down graded to be considered more safe.

    I am glad you will keep speaking your truth. I think it helps to keep us honest. At least it always gives me reason to pause and look at what I am doing and what the cost is of navigating the middle ground. Now that I am no longer working for the NCMHR I feel freer to speak my truth and do so in blogs, my memoir & other venues.

    peace
    lauren spiro

  • Jonah
    thanks for writing. I am not sure what happened to the ECT blog – I hope you have access to it. I did not change it after it was posted. Today is my last day with the NCMHR. It has been a great 8 years working to bring the c/s/x community together behind public policy priorities and raising our voice on the local, state and federal level. You can find me on http://www.laurenspiro.com and I continue to work to expand eCPR (www.emotional-cpr.org) as well as travel the U.S. on my Dialogues of Discovery book (memoir) tour.
    peace
    ls

  • Susan, Thanks for writing about the Alternatives Conference. I think it is pretty amazing that our federal tax dollars fund a large annual conference where diverse voices are heard. And Alternatives has had particularly big successes – a giant step forward for humanity I may add- to have had controversial speakers recently. I am thinking of keynotes by Robert Whitaker and Will Hall. I don’t think anyone can accuse them of conforming to the establishment.

    I agree with Oryx – it is the people who make the conference great. I learn just as much if not more by networking. While I understand some of the objections of colluding with the US Government to throw a big party – opps, I mean conference – I think more progress can be made with the conference than without it BUT we must continuously advocate for visionary speakers who can move our thinking outside the box. It is a slippery slope to navigate inside- outside advocacy but as a peacemaker I do believe in collaboration and many paths that allow the individual to find his or her truth. I envision that if we spent more time respecting every voice and coming to a better understanding of perspectives different from our own that we would more effectively create inclusive and healthier communities. The Alternatives Conference is one of many ways we walk towards a more hopeful and informed future.

  • Brilliant piece Maria. I am sorry for your loss and our loss. I am glad however that you have gathered great evidence to propose a refreshingly rational DSM 5 diagnosis. I must say however, that I do not believe that the arrogance and ignorance of psychiatrists is inherent. My understanding is that they go a grueling and dehumanizing training that leaves then brainwashed, and pressure-indoctrinated into a ‘world as pathology’ and ‘me as God’ mindset. Nothing inherent about that! It is a symptom of an irrational world ignorant of the impact of oppression and trauma and one that has lost its moral bearings.

    I am glad you have a fine-tuned moral compass and a mighty pen!

    Thank you for taking the time to strike an engagingly sarcastic blow to the naked souls hiding under white coats!

  • OK I plan to grab a friend and buy the 2-ticket discount to the film festival. The excitement is building. I am wondering, however, if there might be a place or some space for authors of books to dialogue about our human rights and liberation work and sell our book? My memoir was recently published
    http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_0_12?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=lauren%20spiro&sprefix=lauren+spiro%2Caps%2C208

  • Tru
    Thank you for sharing your thinking. I agree with you that we have very intelligent and creative ways of protesting ourselves. These ways may look odd to others who are too quick to judge. Yes, we can and do heal. Occluded memories are revealed when we are ready to process them and find meaning and liberation. I have found that as I go deeper into the abyss of pain and suffering I am able to let go of what I am unnecessarily holding on to – fear, anger, rage, sadness, etc. I find freedom as I walk through the fire – meaning as I use self-inquiry and emotional expression to explore what my mind holds out for me. There is so much to learn.

    I disagree with your statement that trauma is the source of our differences. I believe that we have no differences we only think we do. And we get stuck in thought. We are not our thoughts. We are much deeper and more complex than any thought we could have.
    Trauma and the impact of trauma is a great common denominator. I believe we live in a traumatized world and no one escapes the impact of living in a world so full of hurt and trauma. We think it is normal – and there is nothing normal about the trauma that many people experience. It is a result, I believe, of living in a irrational society that values production, greed, and superficiality over humanity and healing.

    My mission is to find my deepest truth and speak it. My mission is to envision a world where healing and love, inclusion and compassion are commonplace. I believe we can imagine the world the way we want it to be and live our lives based on that dream – that vision. We co-create the world we want.

    Peace-
    ls

  • thank you Corinna. You have inspired me for a long time too. Your huge success with Poetry for Personal Power is so innovate, inclusive, thoughtful and forward thinking/ forward being really!!!

    Our bodies, these amazing vessels and ally’s that share our lifetime are full of wisdom. I am learning to more deeply listen to my body. PLease listen to yours and take all the time you need to heal. What could possibly be more important that that?

    Our culture teaches us to compete but what does that mean really? I dont believe in winners and losers. We all win. You have already won. I have already won. Now we get to take a deep breath filled with the sweetest rosey fragrance and deepen our wisdom, share the gems we have learned and build a cooperative, peaceful planet. Now that is fun!!!!!!

  • Alex
    The deeper I go into the darkness where radiance resides, the more clearly I can embody forgiveness as a portal to the Devine. I continue towards letting go of everything I have ever embraced or thought of as mine and seeing impermanence in all and understanding that this life stream flows eternal. How deeply we are connected.

    In scanning over my life it gets clearer how my ‘psychotic’ journey was actually an invitation to a spiritual path and finding meaning, purpose and community. At the age of 16 I lacked the resource to help me navigate the intensity of a higher power (God) suddenly reaching for me and then speaking directly with me. I was, understandably, overwhelmed and confused trying to navigate this uncharted territory. The map is clearer now, forty years pass in the blink of an eye.

    This next chapter of my life stream appears to be directed towards engaging in intentional dialogues of discovery. I started one yesterday spontaneously while amongst a group of people. (And might I mention that having a recently published memoir as a springboard is not a bad starting off point) And those who came as believers in the brain disease model left with their eyes open a little wider (literally) and thirsty for information and a deeper understanding of “mental illness”. This particular conversation will, I believe, continue.

    How do we build peace in a world so blinded by pain and fear that we seem unwilling to look towards the light of forgiveness? How do you transform consciousness? How do you build peace? How do you describe the sweetness of the fruit?

  • Alex,
    It is very profound work and I thought it would be a one time only international workshop experience but my work there is not finished. I had two particularly poignant moments in our 2.5 days visiting Auschwitz. One occurred while I stood in the gas chamber – the words “sorrow of the souls” came to me in a way that was spiritually connecting to the horrors that occurred in that room. The other was as I stood by a lovely pond and knew that “something happened here” (meaning right here). Somehow whatever happened in that exact spot by the pond is connected to me. I am an explorer on the journey of a lifetime and I know I will find more answers and I think a deeper level of peace by going back into the darkness and embracing the radiance of the bright inner light.

  • I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this chain of posts. It’s refreshingly hopeful to see clear minds illuminate the oppressive dynamics that psychiatry & big pharma maintain out of greed and ignorance. I think of these times we live in as a “mental health” holocaust. The damage to the oppressors and to those targeted by the oppression is a killing field of gigantic proportions.
    And please let’s not refer to drug ‘side-effects’. They are main effects that create yet another barrier to truly healing and gaining wisdom from the fullness of our emotional/spiritual experiences. Please keep thinking and writing so eloquently

  • Donna
    Thank you for your kind words. When that poem came to me I never imagined I would put it into a blog. I just felt a need to paint it or somehow capture the experience I was burning through. By ‘burning through’ I mean going into the depths of emotion and spirit and discovering a deeper level of who I am – and who we are. At least I think that is what I am doing. It is a healing process and one in which I tap into a deeper awareness of my power to contradict the old patterned way of thinking which allows me to go beyond the glass ceiling and floor. I think I tap into who I was born to be – who we are all born to be. Perfect and gorgeous, intelligent, zestful, loving, cooperative human beings. The oppressiveness of our culture robs us of that often but we can reclaim it. We can envision the world the way we want it, and live our lives in line with that vision.

  • Alex, It is always a blessing to connect with someone on this path- thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It amazes me how blind I can be to my self. Oppression, coersion, brainwashing in our culture is so insidious that it is hard to see. As I continue to deepen my understanding of the damage imposed by oppression and internalized oppression I become increasing compelled to shed light on it. It’s impact om me and it’s impact on others and it’s impact on how it makes alliance building and trusting relationships challenging fuels my work of late. When I ask people about the impact of trauma on their lives and I share from my own experience it always takes the room to a deep level because people so courageously share their own experience and insights. I find that as I deepen my letting go of the ‘abandonment of humanity’ it frees me to reach for others from a place of love and peace. Inner peace brings global peace – one relationship at a time. It is the most important focus of my life. Next month I look forward to returning to Auschwitz (Poland) and continuing to work intentionally and with others on ending war – ending the illusion of separation.

  • Robert,
    We provide trainings for organizations or groups anywhere in the world. Typically an organization invites us in but we do on occasion offer independent trainings that individuals may sign up for. We charge a fee and this fee varies depending on where the training is – using local trainers saves money. Please email or call us directly for more information. There is a 2-day certification training in Austin, Texas (for $200 per person) on Dec 2-3, 2013. We list our upcoming trainings on the web at http://www.emotional-cpr.org

    we look forward to hearing from you.
    Lauren

  • Thank you all so much for posting your thoughts, ideas and experiences. I will continue following replies to this posting and when I can I will reply as I am doing now. As a representative of the National Coalition for Mental Health Recovery I will say that we are pro-choice and pro playing in the sandbox. Our coalition represents the coming together of the voice of both consumers and psychiatric survivors in the United States. By playing in the sandbox, I mean that we work collaboratively with other stakeholder organizations and agencies to forge a more inclusive, respectful and humane America which includes a better health care and mental health system. There are many ways to affect policy change and to inspire and organize people to take action. I applaud each and every one of you for the work you are doing and for the work you will do. We are, I believe, at a tipping point. The more we can come together and stand firmly on common ground the more effectively we will create the America we want.

    My vision (personally) and what I work towards is that no one would ever need invasive and potentially damaging “mental health” intervention. I also respect that, considering all the circumstances, people will chose what makes sense for them. Dorothy’s point about what is truly informed consent is an excellent one. Every individual deserves the right to define informed consent, and how that is made. If I am not able to make a decision I should have the right to have others of my choosing make that decision based on my previously stated, and preferably written, wishes.

    There are so many things wrong with our health and “mental health” system. People mean well but cause harm because they don’t know any better. I strongly urge you to join with others, form a coalition or join one. Make sure your voice is heard because every voice is important.

    Emotional CPR (eCPR) is one way we are educating people about how to create a more just world. Although it was originally created to teach people how to support others through an emotional crisis, people around the world are telling us that it is a way of life and that using it has improved all of their relationships. People tell us that eCPR training reminds them that we are human, that we have big compassionate hearts that are full of giving and receiving kindness and love. I am not sure that I can think of a better way to change the world. Can you?

  • Thanks for writing Rita and for all the wonderful work you do. The voice of a more humanistic, trauma-informed, culturally sensitive, open dialogue approach is growing. People find that this approach resonates with our deeper values and a more compassionate consciousness

  • Thank you Carina Håkansson & Family Care Foundation. I feel that I can now breath a little deeper. Love and using our innate intelligence can and does bring healing from states of extreme emotional distress. I am happy to throw the psychiatric labels I was given into the fire.

  • Thanks for writing Corinna. It is always good to know that others are speading the word that we are experts from our own lived experience. Many of us have gained insight and wisdom from our altered states or experiences with intense emotions. And separate from that we have horrendously tragic stories of the “mental illness” system unintentionally inflicting pain. I am hopeful that as we gain more political power and visability that our recommendations for state and federal policy change are taken more seriously. We need to be at the head table (where decisions are made) regarding training, eduction and evaluation.