Why Those With a ‘Personality Disorder’ Diagnosis Always Sabotage (Or Do They?)


From Beam Consultancy: “I’ve made a lot of impulsive decisions in my life, some of them have taken me away from my long-term goals. Even at my most critical, self-eviscerating moments, I would struggle to define those times as a deliberate attempt to rip my life apart. When we look people in the face and tell them that their actions are a deliberate attempt to tear down anything good in their lives, we will almost certainly be re-enacting the part of somebody who has hurt them. ‘You asked for this.’ ‘You’ve got what you wanted.’ ‘It’s all your fault.’ We, those who are supposed to care, will be telling them that they are the authors of their misery and that this is what they wanted all along. That the whole mess is of their creation and of their desire. If we are replicating the words of somebody’s abuser, we’ve probably stopped providing care. We will never be struck off for saying people sabotage, but the reasoning behind such a statement is surely outside all of our codes of practice.”

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  1. This applies to all psychiatric labels at various levels.
    It’s common for people who were abused, or bullied to wonder if it was partially their fault. “What’s wrong with me that caused me to be treated this way?” Psychiatry responds with, “you have an ill brain and it is your (brains) fault.” Someone coming to psychiatry with feelings of sadness and social anxiety will be told the cause is their diseased brain. Being told what makes you you is diseased is a recipe for increased emotional suffering, and low self esteem.

    A psychiatric diagnosis tares a person down. It’s a de facto statement that the person is less than “normal” people. It Makes them hopeless, fearful, and convinces them they lack the ability and power to feel good. The result is an enhanced placebo effect when the drugs are used. Now the drugs are considered helpful solely if the active placebo effect bring the person back to their emotional state before they were convinced of their hopelessness, powerlessness and inevitable horrid future.

    This is why so many people end up being put on new drugs over and over. The placebo effect fades, the drug damage occurs, and the cause of the emotional problem is not only not dealt with but made worse with stigmatization and hopelessness. If the cause of the problems are addressed or solved during this time by natural means the benefits are assumed to be from the drugs and withdrawal enforces this believe.

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  2. I remember it was very common for someone to say that you have “sabotage” your goals, your successes or whatever. It is similar to that old line, “You are not working up to your full potential.” But, who is deciding this for you? Not you? It is probably an authority figure; teacher, psychiatrist, supervisor, parent or someone who feels it is their duty and obligation to take up the parental role for you. Now, I admit, some of these parents, teachers, etc. may not know better or really know what to say. Their success is in some manner determined by your success. And, this has a lot of implications and it usually begins in our school systems, and progresses to our work situations and the mental illness industry. But, when we fail are we really sabotaging ourselves or not working up to our full potential. It could be just our unique learning curve or it could very well we are trying to do something we are not really intended to do. I do not necessarily getting rid of the grading system or such; but I do advocate a more individualized approach. But we really need to let people be who they are meant to be—people of all ages, etc. And we really need to help people discover who they are and what they are really meant to do; help them discover their natural talents, etc. And those weaknesses or non-strengths we all have. Well, we need to quit making people feel stupid for what they can’t do and tell that what they can do is definitely needed in this world or they would not have been gifted by God with these talents, etc. We need to stop telling people they are “self-sabotaging” or not “working up to their full potential.” We need to love each other just as we are uniquely made. Thank you.

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