I love this article! You lay out the “suicide help” trap perfectly. It’s a much-needed expose right now given the public/mainstream’s increasing attention to suicide. It’s amazing to me that there’s virtually nowhere or no one to go to with thoughts of suicide that will focus primarily on empathy and connection and relationship. Even with paid peer support, a lot of the focus with conversations about suicide is on “safety first” and reporting and assessment. I’m so thankful for the small inroads that some survivor- and peer-led groups are making to create a more welcoming, open space. You nailed it on the head with: calling the cops has to be off the table. If it’s not off the table, it’s not truly a safe enough space to explore the depths or torments or patterns of thinking and feeling that are often coupled with thoughts of suicide, and that are often too shameful or embarrassing to show in all but the most open-minded environments.