I understand your point, Jolly Roger. There is a lot of childhood abuse out there. It is a fallacy about the greatest danger for children is abuse by strangers “stranger danger”. It is actually those closest, in one’s own family, that I have seen the greatest damage to safety, trust and security. This type of collaborative approach is definitely not for all families. Safety is always first. I worked with some really abusive parents. But most of the time parents do really want to do right by their children and in a nonjudgmental environment they can learn how to be better parents. It takes real courage to look at oneself and change negative patterns. Some cannot do it and continue to abuse. Therapists also have to have the courage to tell parents who are abusive that what they are doing is causing harm. Mandated reporting is our professional ethical obligation, though not saying that solves the problem. DCF has its issues as well.