I agree, Sam. Many “positive thinking” interventions, especially the quickie, workbook-based or online varieties, do little more than tell us what we SHOULD think. I was struck by the woman who reported that being made to write gratitude lists only “pushed her deeper into shame and self-loathing.” She’s not alone. I have found that lots of cookbook cognitive-behavioral therapy tips functioned the same way — giving me sophisticated new ways to despise myself for my “irrational, self-defeating” thought patterns. Right now, during this time of social lockdown and massive economic insecurity, do you know what I hear most often from the most anxious and unhappy people around me? “I *should* be grateful. I’ve got a place to live, I’m not sick, I’ve got plenty to eat, etc. etc.” It clearly does not make them feel better. It may help more to hear from others that they are frightened, angry, nervous too, and it’s OK to feel that way. Even realistic.